Hey there, friends.
There have been a lot of changes happening (with big decisions to make) around here, both with my sweet little family and this Big White Farmhouse blog. I’ve been praying earnestly for direction for months and getting crickets in return…or so I thought. God definitely works in mysterious ways. I’ll probably share some of my family’s news, but that’s a story for another day. Today’s all about this blog.
I have been writing in this space for almost five years now and it’s seen its share of ebb and flow. For the past 18 months, I really revved up the frequency, posting at least three times a week. Truth be told, I’ve loved it! This blog has been a journal, a memory keeper and a safe place to grow into myself. But I’m feeling the nudge to step back a bit. I think I’ll still pop in, but won’t be holding myself to any schedule or plan. I’m not sure if the Big White Farmhouse has run its course, but it’s definitely something I’m praying about.
SO. I’ve passed on the baton for the Five Favorites linkup. It’s been a fun six months and I have met so many sweet ladies. I am so, so thankful for the ones who have returned week after week! Starting this week, the linkup will be hosted by Bonnie at The Koala Mom. Be sure to hop on over and say hello!
xo,
Ashley
{book report} My Latest Reads // April

As my part of my Learn goals for 2016, I’m reading a variety of styles and genres of books in the attempt to discover new ideas and expand my horizons. My goal is to read at least 25 this year, of which I’m keeping track on Goodreads. Are you over there? Let’s connect!
The Secrets of Midwives by Sally Hepworth
I’d characterize this one as pretty light fiction, maybe even chick lit? It’s the story of three generations of midwives, each with their own secret. The tale is told in alternating voices, but I found it easy enough to follow. It was a quick read and all the questions are answered and tied up in a pretty bow by the end, which my optimistic heart loved. I checked some reviews and someone wrote that it felt a bit like a Jerry Springer episode – I got a nice laugh out of that description!
(P.S. Starting in May and continuing through August, The Inspired Readers Book Club is changing things up: we’re hosting the Inspired Readers Summer Book List Challenge! We’ve picked two books for each month, which you can read at your own pace. Then check in with the Facebook group when you feel inspired with thoughts or reflections on the books! We hope this will allow us all to continue to read and stay connected, but in a way that is more manageable during summertime. We always welcome new members and would love for you to check out what we’re reading this summer! The Secrets of Midwives is one of the choices for May.)
Why Can’t We Just Play?: What I Did When I Realized My Kids Were Way Too Busy by Pam Lobley
My original intention for reading this book was reassurance in my unpopular parenting choices. We live in an area where kids are involved in multiple extra-curricular activities, participate in competitive sports by age 6, and the pressure to “keep up” is unreal. So I figured this memoir, written by a mother intent to recreate a summer like the 1950s, would be right up my alley. Little did I know how much this book would affect me and in ways I didn’t expect.
This paragraph from the last chapter sums it up: “This is the message of the 1950s: their low expectations. Or rather, their reasonable expectations. We demand so much more of our family life – our family experience – than previous generations did. And it saddles all of us with an unachievable burden. If you’re looking for the main difference between childhood in the 1950s and now, it is that children were freer then. Free to imagine, free to be bored, free to fail, free to be average.” You know me and my unreasonable expectations for my life. The “permission” to unburden myself from the demands of our city and (more importantly) my perfectionist, overachieving tendencies…let’s just say it was a reminder I really needed. It’s okay not to carry the weight of every.single.thing.
(I received this book from Familius, but all opinions are mine.)
{five favorites} Vol.21: YOUR Favorites & A Small Break

{five favorites} Vol.20: Our Top Five Favorites for Backyard Bird Watching

First, let’s congratulate Heather for winning March’s #5Faves Prize Pack!
The winning post: Kiddie Book Club Vol.1
On to this week’s favorites:
Call me an old lady, but I love bird watching. (I like puzzles too, so definitely pushing 80 over here.) My love has even rubbed off on my kids! Here are five of our favorite things we use around here:
Homemade Milk Jug Bird Feeder // M made one in his co-op science class (using a method similar to this post) and we hung it from our front yard tree. The smaller opening has attracted many little bitty birds, like finches and sparrows. I think they find it safer than trying to fight with the larger birds.
Acrylic Window Bird Feeder // We have this feeder hanging from one of our living room windows, which has been perfect for observing throughout the day. In the past month alone, we probably have seen at least 15 different types of birds! It’s been fun to watch how each interacts: the “scare-dy bird” who backs into the feeder before it eats, the big mourning doves who think they own the place and scare the others away, the little finches who come in pairs with one always on the lookout. Always something interesting.
Backyard Birdseed Mix // We use this birdseed mix and because of the variety of birds we’ve seen at the feeders, I would highly recommend it!
Birds of North America Guide Book // We have this old one, but I have about five others on my wishlist! Ours is simple enough for the kids to look through without being too overwhelming and we keep it handy in our living room book basket.
Backyard Bird Identifier // If our bird book proves unhelpful, this website from National Geographic is really great to help figure out a bird’s species.
