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The Big White Farmhouse

intentional living, little by little

February 17, 2025

No.895: Last Week at the Farmhouse // Rolling with the Punches

“Seated Female” by Giovanni (Nino) Costa (1869)

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I had a good chuckle when I stumbled upon the painting above because…the look on her face was pretty similar to mine this week.

We have been in limbo with our flooring situation since October 29th and have hit delay after delay after delay.  I’ve been relatively patient as the months have gone by, but after moving all of our furniture into a POD and then hearing of another delay due to a snow storm…I about hit my limit.

In a moment of desperation, we decided why not, let’s just do the floor demo ourselves!  A couple of Youtube tutorials later and we were fairly confident in our abilities.  (It really wasn’t hard, even for non-handy people like us.)  As a family, we spent Monday through Wednesday doing the work entirely ourselves, getting everything removed and prepped and ready for the flooring team to arrive on Thursday.

And then…even though we were in contact with our estimator early in the week and he knew exactly what we were doing, there was still some sort of miscommunication and the person sent out on Thursday was for demo!  The poor guy came in and looked around so confused, ha!  Anyway, we had to be put back on the schedule for the installers and they wouldn’t be available for almost a week.

It’s funny to look back at my 2025 goals and the virtues I wanted to work on in the new year.  Ask and you shall receive!  Oh well.  We’ll just continue rolling with the punches, hoping we grow in patience and perseverance along the way.  We’ll have floors…someday.

Hoping to document 52 weeks of good things!

Five Good Things…

  1. Doing the flooring removal ourselves. // We felt like we were on a HGTV show!  We also saved $3,000, learned a new skill and even discovered a new interest for one of my sons.  (Maybe general contracting is in his future?)
  2. Six years with our dog, Lucy. // She is a joy and we can’t imagine life without her.
  3. Warm temperatures that melted the snow within two days. // We are pretty done with this relentless winter!
  4. Starting my “handmade Christmas” challenge. // I purchased the “Christmas Lights” pattern by Stitch With Coffee and am stitching 2 over 1 (two threads over one square) – tiny!  It’s turning out so cute.
  5. A plan to organize our deep freezers. // More details once I acquire the supplies, but I’m excited to bring some order to chaos.

Frugal Accomplishments //

  • frogged a discarded knitting project to use the yarn in a different way
  • used a scrap fabric for the ornament cross-stitch
  • refreshed my white bed quilt using Oxyclean (thanks to the prompt on February’s bingo board!)

This Week in the Liturgical Year //

February 10 was the Feast of Saint José Sánchez del Río, Martyr.

To Read: The young Mexican who gave his life for Christ the King

To Add to the Library: Saint José: Boy Cristero Martyr, Saints and Sinners in the Cristero War: Stories of Martyrdom from Mexico and Mexican Martyrdom: Firsthand Accounts of the Religious Persecution in Mexico 1926-1935

To Watch: Looking at Heaven: The Life of St. José Sánchez del Río

To Copy in the Commonplace Book: ¡Viva Cristo Rey!

Reading //

  • Humane Learning in a Machine Age: A Professor’s Resolutions from Dr. Ben Reinhard at Hearth & Field // “We will have to move more slowly on this model: to read fewer works, but read them more deeply; to write less, but invest more in what we create. This seems to me an acceptable tradeoff. As we enter the machine age, the goal of introductory humanities coursework is no longer to teach close reading or the Western literary tradition, but something more fundamental: how to be human.”
  • C. S. Lewis, Peter Kreeft, and the sequence: truth, goodness, and beauty from Jeffrey Wattles at Universal Family
  • From Gourmet Pork to Subsistence Farming: Why Buellton’s Winfield Farm Will Stop Raising Mangalitsa Pigs in Favor of Sheer Survival from Matt Kettmann at Santa Barbara Independent // “At a time when supporting honestly raised, regionally grown, sustainably minded food is on the lips of every self-respecting restaurant lover, why is it essentially impossible to make a stable living off of working the land?”  A blog post for another day, but these questions are frequently being asked here at our farm too.
  • The challenge: Avoiding the grocery store from Bruce Steele // “The challenge, To stop eating anything storebought. To see how long you can go on foraging , dry provisions from last years garden, preserves from your own trees or foraged fruit. And of course the garden.”

New Additions to The List // 

  • A Bold Return to Giving a Damn: One Farm, Six Generations, and the Future of Food by Will Harris
  • Politics by Aristotle

Watching/Listening //

  • Lessons 1-2 (on George Orwell’s 1984) in the “Totalitarian Novels” course from Hillsdale College
  • How I Turned Over 300 Scraps into a Beautiful Quilt in 1 Day from Sew Easy by Sandy

Loving //

  • The Last Homely House Youtube channel // Her voice is so soothing and her projects are inspiring.  She reminds me of a British version of my grandmother!

from the archives…

WEEK SEVEN 2024 // Patience

February 10, 2025

No.894: Last Week at the Farmhouse // Abundance at Home

“Davis House” by Edward Hopper (1926)

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This week, our primary focus was packing up the first floor as we prepare for our new flooring.  I’ve spent a lot of time decluttering the past few years but it still astounded me to see how many items we own, neatly tucked away in cabinets and nooks and crannies.  None of this is junk per se – it’s our puzzle collection and stacks of books and throw blankets and pillows – but it was a good reminder to never complain.  How fortunate am I to have collected an abundance of beautiful, useful things!

Hoping to document 52 weeks of good things!

Five Good Things…

  1. Celebrating my husband’s birthday. // We did the math and have celebrated 20 years of birthdays together.  Time flies!
  2. Making it through the ice storm (relatively) unscathed. // A wild experience.  Trees were snapping everywhere and roads were blocked in every direction.  We even lost power for 30 hours!  So thankful for our generator and fireplace.
  3. The gentle reminder from my kids not to stress. // I think they could see it in my eyes.  With the unpredictable weather, my husband’s insane work schedule, car issues and a sick pig, I was very overwhelmed with all of the tasks that needed to be accomplished.  My sweet son joked, “So is No Stress 2025 out the window now?” and that was enough to pull me out of my spiral.  One step at a time.
  4. Not breaking my finger. // In the midst of this crazy week, I somehow managed to jam the ring finger on my non-dominant hand!  Thankfully, taping it to the next finger helped significantly and I was back to normal a day or two later.
  5. New art! // My “making do” project of the week: I finished my second cross-stitch project and planned to frame it for my dining room.  I took a quick look at framing services and realized that I might be able to do it myself!  I laced the back using this tutorial and put it in a secondhand frame I purchased on Poshmark.  Definitely not perfect, but done.

Frugal Accomplishments //

  • used every tote and bag and piece of luggage we own to pack up instead of buying boxes
  • did all of the heavy lifting (moving furniture into the POD container) ourselves
  • found a secondhand frame on Poshmark to use for my cross-stitch project
  • used the newspaper packing from the box to start a fire
  • reused an Old Navy bag to package up an ebay order
  • fixed a gear shifter issue without having to see a mechanic (maybe. hopefully.)

This Week in the Liturgical Year //

February 8 was the Optional Memorial of St. Josephine Bakhita.

To Read: St. Josephine Bakhita Was a Humble Witness to God’s Love

To Make: African Inspired Meal for St. Josephine Bakhita

To Copy in the Commonplace Book: “Be good, love the Lord, pray for those who do not know him. What a great grace it is to know God!”

Reading //

  • The Rules of Discernment: A Practical Guide – Rule 7 from Megan Hjelmstad at Spiritual Direction
  • That I Might Be Seen from John Cuddeback at LifeCraft // “How I see the persons around me is more in my power than how they see me. Maybe, when I feel unseen it is then most important that I look outward at others, that I renew my effort to see them better. Lord, that I might see. Them. Even now.”
  • Hannah Coulter, the Green Lady, and Me from Emily G. Wenneborg at Plough // Thought provoking.
  • The Gift of Kindness from Melisa Capistrant at The Cavalry of Woe // I loved this.
  • “Immanence” by Evelyn Underhill // A poem mentioned in the Tasha Tudor documentary I watched last week.

New Additions to The List // 

  • Aristotle: The Desire to Understand by Jonathan Lear
  • Perelandra by C.S. Lewis

Watching/Listening //

  • Lessons 4-5 of the How to Think Like a Thomist: An Introduction to Thomistic Principles from Aquinas 101 at the Thomistic Institute

Loving //

  • this book from Alicia Paulson // A used bookstore find for $3!

from the archives…

WEEK SIX 2024 // Patience

February 3, 2025

No.892: Last Week at the Farmhouse // To Be Like Tasha Tudor

Baking Print by Tasha Tudor

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I’ve recently been on a Tasha Tudor deep dive.  This week, I watched a documentary about her called Take Joy! The Magical World of Tasha Tudor.  (I don’t have Amazon Prime, but was able to purchase it for $1.99.)  There’s something special about learning about a person through their own words, their own stories.  I found her to be eccentric and quirky, but also warm and welcoming and unapologetic about who she is and what she’s passionate about.

The more I reflect, the more I think I want to be a bit more like Tasha Tudor.  I want to pursue my passions of frugality and farming and learning all.the.things without fear of what others may think.  I want to live simply and beautifully, even if that doesn’t look like the lives of most people.  I want to create a home atmosphere of creativity and usefulness and encourage my children in their individual pursuits.

One quote from the documentary really spoke to me so I jotted it down: “Tasha is not escaping from reality.  Rather, she is choosing to create the world the way she imagines it.”  I believe the world is full of the good, the true and the beautiful.  My quest is to intentionally create a life that reflects it.

Hoping to document 52 weeks of good things!

Five Good Things…

  1. Stitching every day. // I started a new project called “Seeds of Kindness” by Scattered Seed Samplers and it’s coming together quickly.  I love adding a few stitches here and there throughout the day.
  2. Starting the driving school process again. // We have another teenager so close to getting his license!
  3. A hardwood flooring update. // The flooring has been purchased, a POD container ordered and the work scheduled.  So excited to get this big undertaking started.
  4. Mending my favorite pair of jeans. // I accidentally snagged my favorite pair of jeans on a hog panel and was so bummed.  But then!  Building off of my frugality high, I decided that it wouldn’t hurt to try to mend them before just throwing them away.  Thank goodness for my little sewing basket!  I used these denim iron-on patches (ironed from the inside) and this thread and I think it turned out well!
  5. A new project bag. // My “making do” project of the week: I watched a few cross-stitch ladies on Youtube and they all seemed to keep their projects in beautiful fabric bags.  I was about to look for options on etsy when I decided I would try to make one myself!  I used a variety of fabrics (an old chambray shirt, a polka dot pillowcase and a few pieces from my grandmother’s stash) and followed this tutorial.  It was pretty challenging and I made a lot of mistakes but I’m excited to try again soon.

Frugal Accomplishments //

  • cut down another one of my husband’s old dress shirts for the fabric and buttons
  • listed a few things on Poshmark
  • made broth from frozen chicken backs for the pigs
  • found a few pieces of clothing for a son in the hand-me-down bins

This Week in the Liturgical Year //

January 27 was the Optional Memorial of St. Angela Merici.

To Read: January Ends with Three Italian Educators

To Add to the Library: The Incorruptibles by Joan Carroll Cruz

To Pray: Litany of St. Angela Merici

 

 

 

Reading //

  • Are Social Media Platforms the Next Dying Malls? from Ted Gioia at The Honest Broker // “Not long ago, we hoped that these artificial gathering places could be robust, vital replacements for the neighborhoods we tore down. But what I’ve learned is that you pay a heavy price for replacing a real community with a fake one.”
  • Otium Omnia Vincit from Christopher Whittington at On Love and Longing // “I made myself out to be merely a laborer, a body put to work, a ‘Cog in the Machine,’ as they say. A worker, on the other hand, is one who applies themselves, either physically or mentally, to a task for the sake of creating or sustaining beauty. This is not to say that only the artist or poet is a ‘worker’ as such or that they are never laborers, but the privileged vocation of work is reserved for those who persevere in labor in order to sustain a life which partakes in beauty.”
  • Simple Acts of Sanity: A Seed Catalogue from Peco and Ruth Gaskovski at Pilgrims in the Machine

New Additions to The List // 

  • The Manchurian Candidate by Richard Condon

Watching/Listening //

  • Inside Africa’s Food Forest Mega-Project from Andrew Millison // So cool.
  • It Is Time To Create More Than You Consume from Rooney Sewing Patterns // I couldn’t agree more!

Loving //

  • this volunteering opportunity with Creative Kindness // A really fun way to be creative and spread some cheer at the same time.
  • this quote:

from the archives…

WEEK FIVE 2024 // Raising My Ebenezer

January 27, 2025

No.889: Last Week at the Farmhouse // Little Moments of Delight pt.6

“Vase of Peonies and Snowballs” by Henri Fantin-Latour (1878)

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Bringing back this prompt for the first time in 2025!  (Here’s part one, part two, part three, part four, and part five.)  I needed this intentional practice as our weather was bitterly cold and most of my family battled a nagging illness.

Here are the little moments of delight I found this week: Picking out a few papergoods from my rolling cart to add to my journals every day.  Puzzles with artwork by Charles Wysocki.  Making a fire first thing in the early morning.  Finishing my cross-stitch sampler.  Big plans for my oldest’s future.  A job opportunity for my second oldest.  Paying off a little chunk on our next debt challenge.  A family slowly returning back to health.

Hoping to document 52 weeks of good things!

Five Good Things…

  1. More snow and ice. // Choosing to see this as a good thing even though we’ve had snow and ice on the ground for three weeks now and we are over it.  Definitely not used to this here in the mid-Atlantic!
  2. Our incredibly kind feed provider. // Our feed delivery was supposed to come on Monday but due to our location and the precariousness of the roads, they had to postpone until the next day.  They called twice to apologize and explain and of course, we were completely understanding.
  3. A Youtube feed full of creative endeavors. // So inspiring.  I feed off of their enthusiasm and can’t wait to be more of a creator in 2025.
  4. Burning an entire candle! // It took about a month, but I burned the entirety of this candle.  Next candle on the desk: Battle Cry from CORDA Candles.
  5. A new-to-me book genre. // I’ve been reading Kennedy’s Avenger: Assassination, Conspiracy, and the Forgotten Trial of Jack Ruby all week and I don’t think I’ve ever read anything like it.  I would describe it almost as a courtroom transcript but rewritten in prose, a play-by-play of the trial.  So interesting.  I keep placing myself in the jurors’ shoes and asking if each testimony was believable or would sway me one way or another.

Frugal Accomplishments //

  • avoided the grocery store, only purchasing milk when we ran out
  • cut down two of my husband’s old dress shirts, saving the fabric and buttons
  • visibly mended three small holes in my cotton gloves
  • made chicken broth from frozen chicken backs to bring out to the pigs
  • removed the remaining bit of wax from my finished candle jar to use again as storage

This Week in the Liturgical Year //

January 24 was the Memorial of St. Francis de Sales, Bishop and Doctor.

To Listen: Introduction to the Devout Life audiobook on Catholic Culture

To Pray: Lord, I am yours, and I must belong to no one but you. My soul is yours, and must live only by you. My will is yours, and must love only for you. I must love you as my first cause, since I am from you. I must love you as my end and rest, since I am for you. I must love you more than my own being, since my being subsists by you. I must love you more than myself, since I am all yours and all in you. Amen.

To Add to the Library: St. Francis de Sales: A Biography of the Gentle Saint by Louise Stacpoole-Kenny, A Man of Good Zeal: A Novel Based on the Life of Saint Francis de Sales by John E. Beahn, and The Catholic Controversy: A Defense of the Faith

Reading //

  • The Rules of Discernment: A Practical Guide – Rule 6 from Megan Hjelmstad at Spiritual Direction
  • Shakespeare’s Grief from David Bannon at Front Porch Republic // “Hamlet also offers profound insight into the complex nature of masculine mourning. The obvious similarity of the names Hamlet and Hamnet aside, the play itself is preoccupied with twinning: the act of sublimation; doubling themes; the use of two points to describe a single complex meaning; a play within a play; all are delivered in a masterpiece of lyricism. The title character displays much of the terrifying anxiety and exhausting nature of grief while examining internal struggles that lead ultimately to transformation.”
  • Where Is All the Fiction-Inspired Art? from Jonathan McDonald at Dappled Things

New Additions to The List // 

  • Run by Blake Crouch
  • The Children by Edith Wharton

Watching/Listening //

  • the 1948 rendition of Hamlet with Laurence Olivier // Watched as I read along with the play.
  • The True Horror Of WW1’s Tunnel Warfare from All Out History // I just read a book about tunnel warfare and wanted to learn more.  This documentary is long (almost three hours!) and I’ve finished about half so far.
  • Lesson 3 of the How to Think Like a Thomist: An Introduction to Thomistic Principles from Aquinas 101 at the Thomistic Institute

Loving //

  • this pretzel bites mix from King Arthur // I purchased a handful of mixes for my baking-loving daughter for Christmas.  These were a big hit!
  • this quote from Fulton Sheen: “Because God is full of life, I imagine each morning Almighty God says to the sun, ‘Do it again’; and every evening to the moon and the stars, ‘Do it again’; and every springtime to the daisies, ‘Do it again’; and every time a child is born into the world asking for curtain call, that the heart of the God might once more ring out in the heart of the babe.”

from the archives…

WEEK FOUR 2024 // Brave Knights & Heroic Courage

January 20, 2025

No.887: Last Week at the Farmhouse // Pursuing the Intellectual Life

“Les Alpilles, Mountain Landscape near South-Reme” by Vincent van Gogh (1889)

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Pursuing the intellectual life in three easy steps!

I’ll preface this by saying that I’m fairly new to this endeavor, but I loved this quote from the article I shared last week and want to use it as my guide in 2025: “The true classical scholar is simply an ordinary person who loves truth, beauty, and goodness. He is not puffed up with self-importance, nor does he try to make a show of what he knows. His humility is a beacon of light, allowing him to emanate the true spirit of the classical tradition.”  So with my limited experience, below are the three steps I recommend for a successful reading year.  Hopefully it’s helpful!

  1. Determine what you are curious about. // If you’ve ever looked at my weekly “Additions to The List” books, you know I find recommendations everywhere.  As you go about your daily life, start jotting down topics that interest you.  It may come from something in the news or a list you find online.  It may be something mentioned in a book you’re currently reading.  It may come from an ailment you’re suffering or an activity you enjoy.  It might even come from reflecting on your favorite subjects in school!
  2. Choose your books. // Now that you have a few topics in mind, start collecting the books.  This can look like going on a shopping spree or just jotting down a physical list.  Now is also the time to reflect on how you read.  Do you like to read one book at a time or are you a multiple book kind of person?  (I like to have multiple books going at one time, as long as the subjects are significantly different from one another.)
  3. Find pockets of time to read and make it a habit. //  This step takes a bit of time as you begin, but don’t give up!  I have found that I enjoy nonfiction books in the morning/early afternoon but by bedtime, I’m ready to curl up with a fictional story.  Start with a habit of ten minutes in the morning, half an hour before bed, etc.  Can you replace some scrolling with a book?

One last note: it seems common in today’s society to be ridiculously competitive about reading (ie. I read 250 books in one year, I stayed up for 48 hours to finish 20 books..).  Don’t fall into the trap!  This pursuit is about quality vs. quantity.  It is completely okay to read one single book – maybe just a paragraph or two a day! – as long as you keep going and really ingest the information in a deeper way.  We’re looking for greater wisdom here, not gold stars and accolades.

Happy Reading!

Hoping to document 52 weeks of good things!

Five Good Things…

  1. New scrunchies! // “Making do” project of the week!  I have a bad habit of putting up my wet hair with an elastic and apparently that’s terrible!  Lately, I’ve tried to mitigate the damage by using a scrunchie instead.  I only have one, so was looking into buying more until I realized I could try to make my own!  My daughter and I used this tutorial and it was pretty easy.  We’re hooked and can’t wait to make more.
  2. A less bloated stomach. // Wheat belly is a thing.
  3. Seed catalogs in the mail. // ‘Tis the season!  Thankfully, I have plenty of leftover seeds from last year, so I only need to order a few.  I also found the planting schedule I made a few years back so I’m all ready to go for Growing Season 2025.
  4. A hardwood floor update! // We finally heard back from insurance and the money has been approved to move forward.  We’ve been in a constant state of disarray since mid-October so suuuper excited to get this process going.
  5. My go-to illness arsenal. // By the end of the week, we all got sick with colds and sore throats.  I pulled out all of our favorites: Cold Calm, Vitamin C tea with a spoonful of honey, Emercen-C, and Ricola cough drops.  Add in a lot of rest and we tend to bounce back quickly.

Frugal Accomplishments //

  • cut up an old chambray dress to use as fabric (and saved the buttons too!)
  • listed a few things on ebay/Poshmark
  • altered two dresses that had slits a little too high (now much more appropriate for church, ha)
  • made chicken broth from frozen chicken backs to bring out to the pigs
  • invested in another 50 pounds of flour
  • shredded some unneeded documents/junk mail to add to my compost pile
  • made homemade bacon from sidemeat from our pigs using our meat slicer (delicious!)

This Week in the Liturgical Year //

January 13 was the Optional Memorial of St. Hilary of Poitiers, Bishop and Doctor.

To Listen: Hilary of Poitiers: Exile and Understanding from the Way of the Fathers podcast

To Read: Saint Hilary of Poitiers by Pope Benedict XVI

To Add to the Library: On the Trinity

To Quote: “The privilege of our Church is such that it is never stronger than when it is attacked, never better known than when it is accused, never more powerful than when it appears forsaken.”

Reading //

  • The Rules of Discernment: A Practical Guide – Rule 5 from Megan Hjelmstad at Spiritual Direction
  • The One Hundred Pages Strategy from Matthew Walther at the Lamp
  • The Need For Adults from Freya India at GIRLS // Very, very thought provoking.
  • New Year’s Resolution: Bring Back The Aunties from Mary Harrington // “Aunties, assemble! We have nothing to lose but the next generation’s loneliness.”
  • Basically Beavers from Sarah W Rowell at Blind Mule Blog // “We learned that being friends was just as fun as being lovers, and often a lot more useful.”
  • The Power of the Good, the True, & the Beautiful by Joseph Pearce at The Imaginative Conservative // “If the Good, the True and the Beautiful, as a reflection of the Trinity, are the end to which we strive they are also, through their manifestation in love, reason and creativity, the means by which the end is achieved. Love is the path to goodness; reason is the path to truth; and creativity is the path to beauty.”

New Additions to The List // 

  • St. Rita of Cascia: Saint of the Impossible by Joseph Sicardo, OSA
  • When Pride Still Mattered: A Life of Vince Lombardi by David Maraniss

Watching/Listening //

  • Lesson 2 of the How to Think Like a Thomist: An Introduction to Thomistic Principles from Aquinas 101 at the Thomistic Institute

from the archives…

WEEK THREE 2024 // The Soul Craves Beauty

January 13, 2025

No.885: Last Week at the Farmhouse // Being Useful

“The Cobbler’s Shop” by Ralph Hedley (1909)

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A new year always makes me introspective.  What do I want to do with this one, precious life?  How am I serving my family and my community?  What bad habits do I want to leave behind, what good habits do I need to practice and cultivate?  These questions remind me of a book I just finished in December called Shop Class for Soulcraft: An Inquiry into the Value of Work by Matthew B. Crawford, particularly this quote:

We are experiencing a genuine crisis of confidence in our most prestigious institutions and professions.  The question of what a good job looks like – of what sort of work is both secure and worthy of being honored – is more open now than it has been for a long time.  Wall Street in particular has lost its luster as a destination for smart and ambitious young people.  Out of the current confusion of ideals and confounding of career hopes, a calm recognition may yet emerge that productive labor is the foundation of all prosperity.  The meta-work of trafficking in the surplus skimmed from other people’s work suddenly appears as what it is, and it becomes possible once again to think the thought, “Let me make myself useful.” (p.9-10)

Let me make myself useful.

That’s a sentiment I would like to cultivate in my life in 2025.  But how?  Stop wasting time, emotion and energy on things that don’t matter.  Live in the real world not just the virtual one.  Do things that are tangible and have value.  Life a life of love and service.

Hoping to document 52 weeks of good things!

Five Good Things…

  1. Snow! // We woke up to a winter wonderland on Monday.  We got around ten inches of snow, which is both a blessing and a hindrance: lots of fun to play in but not so fun when you have farm chores to do!  Our chicken-tractor-turned-feed-shed’s roof collapsed under the weight of the snow (unfortunately not fixable), but there were good things to be seen too.  For example, our neighbor offered to snow plow our long driveway and accomplished the task in two minutes versus the hours it would have taken to shovel out on our own.  So grateful.
  2. Kids who can put on their own snow gear. // I feel like I was helping to put on pants and gloves and hats and zipping up coats for years and years and years…and then I blinked and they can do it all on their own now.  Bittersweet.
  3. An audio drama of The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe // For Christmas, we bought an old-school boombox for my ten-year-old son along with a 19-disc audio drama set of The Chronicles of Narnia (similar to this, but I bought a different, cheaper version on ebay).  We listened to The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe first and thought it was very well done!  (Our only pet peeve was the voice of Aslan was a bit corny.)
  4. Using up supplies. // My “making do” project of the week: I found myself looking at stationery and pens so decided to collect what I already have.  Turns out that I have plenty!  I also have lots of random stickers so I’m using them with wild abandon on my planner and notebooks.  Supplies are meant to be enjoyed, right?
  5. Dark red cardinals on the bright white snow. // So beautiful to see.

This Week in the Liturgical Year //

January 6 was the Solemnity of the Epiphany of the Lord.

To Do: Epiphany Home Blessing

To Read: Benedict XVI’s Homily for Feast of the Epiphany 2011

To Bake: Twelfth Night Cake or this Three Spice Epiphany Cake

 

Frugal Accomplishments //

  • made banana bread
  • added to my newest compost pile: fruit/veggie scraps, egg shells, coffee grounds, toilet paper rolls and dryer lint
  • made homemade brown sugar using white sugar and molasses
  • used pieces of the broken chicken tractor/feed shed to fortify the pig houses
  • accepted leftovers from a catered lunch at my husband’s work
  • listed a few items on ebay/Pango/Poshmark

Reading //

  • Metaphysicians and Carpenters: Intellectual Pride in Classical Academia from Maddie Dobrowski at Circe Institute //

In his book on G.K. Chesterton and the Christian imagination, Thomas Peters writes, “Chesterton insisted that real artists are ordinary people who do art; they are not finely tuned instruments… nor do [they] need to live in trendy places, to possess certain eccentric furnishings, to wear a certain arty kind of clothing, or to eat at certain notorious cafés.” Likewise, the mark of a real classical scholar is not dressing in tweed jackets, smoking pipes, and quoting the Silmarillion while sipping on the latest microbrew (not that there is anything wrong with the Silmarillion or microbrews). The true classical scholar is simply an ordinary person who loves truth, beauty, and goodness. He is not puffed up with self-importance, nor does he try to make a show of what he knows. His humility is a beacon of light, allowing him to emanate the true spirit of the classical tradition.

  • The Out-of-the Box Vocation from Denise Trull at Theology of Home // I loved this.

Caryll Houselander was never rich. She had about three to four dresses. The office where she wrote her books was a freezing little shed behind her friend Iris’s house. And it worked for her. She painted rooms for people’s houses, she carved Stations of the Cross. She wrote and wrote and wrote books. She was never wealthy or established but lived mostly a vagabond life in her leaf patterned overalls and large glasses. She lived among poor people and artists and those who would never be successful in the world’s eyes. Her great call, her reason for being, she discovered, was to simply try to convince each human being she came into contact with that Christ dwelled within them and their worth was unimaginable. She did it in her very small and limited life filled with odd jobs. And here we are today reading and being blessed by her books. God always finds a way to bless our efforts.

New Additions to The List // 

  • Holy Teaching: Introducing the Summa Theologiae of St. Thomas Aquinas by Frederick Christian Bauerschmidt
  • Fidelity: Five Stories by Wendell Berry
  • Lark Rise to Candleford by Flora Thompson
  • In the Beginning was the Word: An Annotated Reading of the Prologue of John by Anthony Esolen

Watching/Listening //

  • Lesson 1 of the How to Think Like a Thomist: An Introduction to Thomistic Principles from Aquinas 101 at the Thomistic Institute
  • We’ve been conditioned to OVER-CONSUME – A throwback to rationing from Real Vintage Dolls House

from the archives…

WEEK TWO 2024 // Gentle Defiance

January 6, 2025

No.882: Last Week at the Farmhouse // A Restful Winter

“Mother and Child” by Eastman Johnson (1869)

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Seasonal affective disorder (SAD) is a common ailment for many people this time of year.  I used to mildly suffer but have recently learned to appreciate – and even love! – these cold winter months.  For me, it’s all in the mindset.  For ten months of the year, farming is my primary focus and I work hard.  Winter is a time for me to rest and get rejuvenated for the growing season ahead.  If winter is necessary for the natural world to thrive, I’d say it’s equally important for me!

My little list of things to prioritize this winter:

+ creativity projects (cross stitch, junk journaling, etc.)
+ lots and lots of reading
+ going to bed early
+ puttering around my home, decluttering and organizing and decorating
+ taking vitamin D supplementation (so important!)
+ daily walks

Need a little motivation to enjoy these January days?
Check out my January little things bingo board!

Hoping to document 52 weeks of good things!

Five Good Things…

  1. Burning a candle in the early morning. // Scent of the week: White Pear & Apple
  2. A new compost bin. // My husband helped me construct a third compost “bin” out of pallets.  I now can start a three-bin system – one to build, one to turn, and one to finish off before using in the garden – and I’m so excited.  Squirreling away all the things to build up my new pile!
  3. Returning to healthy eating. // We feasted like kings during Christmastide and I’m ready to take a break from the treats.
  4. A DIY reading journal. // In 2025, I thought it would be a fun challenge to seek out new ways of making do.  (The idea would be that I saw/wanted this item, but I did this instead.)  So for my first week, I made a reading journal!  My Youtube feed has been full of lovely ladies setting up new reading journals and I was thiiis close to buying this or this.  BUT!  In a burst of creativity, I decided I still had enough supplies in my junk journal stash to make my own!  It’s not perfect by any stretch but it will work perfectly for my needs.
  5. Firewood with next day delivery. // We are supposed to get snow/ice/polar vortex temperatures in the next week and one look at our woodpile had us panicking.  Although we hated having to spend the money, the company was able to deliver the seasoned firewood the very next day and we’re ready for whatever winter weather comes our way.

This Week in the Liturgical Year //

January 2 was the Memorial of St. Basil the Great and St. Gregory Nazianzen, Bishops and Doctors.

To Listen: Gregory Nazianzen: Greatness in the Passive Voice from the Way of the Fathers podcast as well as St. Basil the Great—On the Right Use of Greek Literature

To Read: Basil, Gregory, and the Holy Spirit

To Add to the Library: On Christian Doctrine and Practice and On the Holy Spirit

To Bake: Vasilopita (Vasilopitta, honoring Saint Basil, is a Greek New Year’s custom.)

Frugal Accomplishments //

  • stocked up on coffee during a sale at the grocery store
  • listed a few books on Pango
  • gave myself a little hair trim

Reading //

  • The Rules of Discernment: A Practical Guide – Rule 4 from Megan Hjelmstad at Spiritual Direction
  • Goodness, Like Truth and Beauty, is a Powerful Thing from Father John P. Cush at National Catholic Register
  • Life in the Cyborg Age: A Conversation with Josh Pauling from Aaron Weinacht at Front Porch Republic // “Do we want to become the type of people who push a button to listen to Bach, who have a chatbot write them a poem, who have an image generator paint them a picture? Or do we want to become the type of people who can play Bach on the piano (or maybe even be the next Bach!), who can revel in writing a poem, who can create art with their own hands? Learning entails risk, challenge, strain, difficulty, and it is through such things that you build wisdom, virtue, and patience—that you become a better you.”
  • The Measured Morning from Grandma Donna // “This sounds like a lot of effort to keep our usage down, but once we have it figured out and let go of things little by little we will get a routine and it will simply be just the way we live as those before us did…People live much differently today than when I first started housekeeping. We were brainwashed we needed these things that cost us so much today to purchase, to use, to upkeep and to and needed attachments and filters. And then there is the cost to run them whatever that thing may be.”

New Additions to The List // 

  • The Last Murder at the End of the World by Stuart Turton
  • Ingrained: The Making of a Craftsman by Callum Robinson
  • A History of the Church in 100 Objects by Mike Aquilina
  • Are We All Cyborgs Now?: Reclaiming Our Humanity from the Machine by Robin Phillips and Joshua Pauling

Watching/Listening //

  • Lessons 3-6 of the Introduction to St. Thomas Aquinas course from Aquinas 101 at the Thomistic Institute
  • What Makes Buildings Beautiful (And Why Beauty Does Matter) from The Aesthetic City

Loving //

  • this slow cooker meal plan // This will be helpful as I get out of the holiday fog and back to regular meal planning.
  • 2025 Art Book Reading Challenge! from Rebecca at A Humble Place // Fun!
  • Welcome to 2025! Encourage one another from Annabel at The Bluebirds are Nesting on the Farm // I love the memories about her mom!  Inspiring.

from the archives…

WEEK ONE 2024 // The Beauty of Hope

December 30, 2024

No.879: Last Week at the Farmhouse // The Weary World Rejoices

“The Light of the World” by François Boucher (1750)

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Merry Christmastide!  During this joyous time of year, I’ve been thinking about Pope Saint John Paul II’s 2001 Midnight Mass homily entitled Proclaim Christ Child’s Message Of Hope Throughout The World.  I hope it fills you with hope, joy and peace as it did me.

Like the shepherds, we too on this wonderful night cannot fail to experience the desire to share with others the joy of our encounter with this “child wrapped in swaddling cloths“, in whom the saving power of the Almighty is revealed. We cannot pause in ecstatic contemplation of the Messiah lying in the manger, and forget our obligation to bear witness to him.

In haste we must once more set out on our journey. With joy we must leave the cave of Bethlehem in order to recount everywhere the marvel which we have witnessed. We have encountered light and life! In him, love has been bestowed upon us.

We welcome you with joy, Almighty Lord of heaven and earth, who out of love became a Child “in Judea, in the city of David, which is called Bethlehem” (Lk 2:4).

We welcome you with gratitude, new Light rising in the night of the world.

We welcome you as our brother, the “Prince of Peace“, who “made of the two one people” (cf. Eph 2:14).

Fill us with your gifts, you who did not hesitate to begin human life like us. Make us children of God, you who for our sake desired to become a son of man (cf. Saint Augustine, Homilies, 184).

You, “Wonder-Counsellor“, sure promise of peace; you, powerful presence of the “God-Hero“; you, our one God, who lie poor and humble in the dim light of the stable, welcome us around your crib.

Come, peoples of the earth, open to him the doors of your history! Come to worship the Son of the Virgin Mary, who descended among us, on this night prepared for down the centuries.

Night of joy and peace.

Venite, adoremus!


Hoping to document the abundance around me all year long!

Around here, abundance looks like…

+ attending Midnight Mass.  There is something so beautiful about entering a warm chapel in the middle of a dark, cold night.  Our little Oratory was packed – standing room only! – and I felt waves of gratitude for the ability to celebrate His birth with all of these people right as the clock stuck twelve.  What a way to begin the Christmas festivities!

+ a wonderfully simple Christmas morning.  My kids always receive only three gifts each (along with their stockings), so I try to choose items very intentionally.  Some years are a bust, but I think I did okay this year!  Some hits: a personal Keurig machine, a leather jacket, a wood carving kit and book for inspiration, a wearable throw blanket, an old-school boombox for listening to music and audiobooks, and Legos.

+ picking up next year’s wrapping paper for 50% off.  I needed a few skeins of embroidery floss at the craft store and popped into Homegoods next door to check on the paper.  They still had a decent selection and I found four simple designs that will work for next year!  I saved $8.

+ taking inventory of all of my craft supplies.  I have collected a lot of items over the years and I think 2025 is the year that I use ’em or lose ’em.  I organized my rolling cart with materials and I’m excited to start making beautiful things.

Reading //

  • Keeping a Long Christmas from Charles Coulombe at Crisis Magazine
  • Making mixtapes from Austin Kleon // This is such a fun creative project.

New Additions to The List // 

  • Saint Thomas Aquinas: The Person and His Work by Jean-Pierre Torrell
  • The Domestic Revolution: How the Introduction of Coal into Victorian Homes Changed Everything by Ruth Goodman
  • Jesus and the Jewish Roots of the Virgin Mary: Unveiling the Mother of the Messiah by Brant Pitre
  • The Notebook: A History of Thinking on Paper by Roland Allen

Watching/Listening //

  • Lessons 1-2 of the Introduction to St. Thomas Aquinas course from Aquinas 101 at the Thomistic Institute
  • some of the episodes of Something Was Wrong Season 20 // This catfishing story was WILD.

Loving //

  • this French holy card that roughly translates to: “The Christmas Lullaby: with Mary, let us watch over the child Jesus, let us sing His praises, let us admire His beauty, let us contemplate His grace, let us adore His divinity!”

December 23, 2024

No.878: Last Week at the Farmhouse // Look Up

“Winter landscape” by Caspar David Friedrich (1811)

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A reminder to myself, my children and maybe anyone who needs the nudge: look up.

We live in an age where we’re seemingly always attached to our screens.  Our necks ache from that consistent downward posture, we walk around like zombies.  We feel that invisible chain of constant attachment, we acknowledge the unconscious compulsion that urges us to check “just one more thing.”

It’s not just technology, though.  We spend so much time intensely focused on our struggles and crosses, the flaws on our bodies, the appearance of our homes.  We fill these inadequacies with food and fillers and new purchases from Amazon.  We don’t mean to be selfish – maybe we don’t even see ourselves that way – but we’re swept up in the everyday battles of life with our eyes firmly concentrated on our navels.

Of course, as Thomas Aquinas encourages, virtue is found in the middle.  I don’t mean to say that the only alternative to our age is to be a technological Luddite, completely forgetting about our appearance and home.  But there is a better way and one that I need to remember.

Look up.  Look at the beauty of the world around you.  Look at the suffering of others and seek ways to help alleviate some of that pain.  Make eye contact with strangers.  Smile.  Look up.

Hoping to document the abundance around me all year long!

Around here, abundance looks like…

+ saying goodbye to a piece of home decor.  This is so silly, but I have had the same wicker laundry basket since I went away to college in 2003.  Twenty-one years of use!  Sadly this year, bigger and bigger pieces started snapping off – a handle here, a big hunk on the side there – and try as I might, it’s just not salvageable.  I’m sad to see her go, but I definitely think I got my money’s worth, ha!

+ making bows for the little pre-lit tree decorations on either side of our front door.  I already had a roll of wired ribbon in my Christmas stash and after watching this tutorial, I got to work!  So simple but with a big impact.

+ selling eleven unneeded items for the Car Loan Payoff Plan: seven books, a dress and three DVDs.  After shipping and fees, I made $41.86.  And great news: I have to double-check some numbers in our budget, but I think we’ll be able to pay off the remaining balance by New Year’s!  One step closer to financial freedom.

Reading //

  • The Rules of Discernment: A Practical Guide – Rule 3 from Megan Hjelmstad at Spiritual Direction // “Chasing material, emotional, or worldly consolation might initially get us what we want, but we will only be momentarily appeased. Seeking spiritual consolation allows us to be more joyful and at peace regardless of our circumstances.”
  • Blue-collar jobs might be the best jobs from Elle Griffin at The Elysian // I’ve been diving deep into this topic after finishing Shop Class as Soulcraft last week.  A similar argument could definitely be made for farming!
  • A Renaissance is Upon Us from Nate Marshall at The Blue Scholar // “But with the schools listed above, taking up a hammer, let’s say, is an embodied act that demands the recruitment of the interior life such that what its face is applied to is ordered rightly: both to spec, making it technically good, and to Jesus, making it liturgically oriented. Tech support and Our Lord ought to be pleased with our good work.”
  • Christmas in Heaven: Stefan Lochner’s ‘Madonna in the Rose Garden’ from Denis McNamara at Benedictine College // “Though at first glance The Virgin in the Rose Garden presents the unified simplicity of a woman with a child sitting in a bucolic setting, it then presents layers of fascinating detail like the womb of the Virgin itself: strawberries in the field symbolize the blessed souls in heaven, angles with wings like peacock feathers symbolize glorified eternity, apples being offered to Christ to signify the undoing of the poisonous fruit eaten by Adam and Eve. To ponder the mysteries of the painting is to ponder the mysteries of God himself: profoundly simple and endlessly fascinating.”

New Additions to The List // 

  • The Good Good Pig: The Extraordinary Life of Christopher Hogwood by Sy Montgomery
  • Bonhoeffer: Pastor, Martyr, Prophet, Spy by Eric Metaxas
  • Klara and the Sun by Kazuo Ishiguro
  • Till We Have Faces by C.S. Lewis

Watching/Listening //

  • Preparing for Christmas through the O Antiphons from The Norbertine Fathers of St. Michael’s Abbey
  • 3 Books That Made Me Obsessive | The Home Librarian Series from The Commonplace
  • The Impossible Cleanup That Followed The End Of WW2 from War Stories

Loving // the incredibly kind women who have visited my blog this year.  I am so grateful that you choose to spend your time here with me and I have been so blessed by your comments and emails and financial support on my Ko-fi site.  (Thank you especially to Natalie!)  What a gift it is to pursue the intellectual life with such diverse and interesting women.  I can’t wait to see what we’ll learn in 2025!

Wishing you a very Merry Christmas from my family to yours. xo

December 16, 2024

No.877: Last Week at the Farmhouse // Ordinary Advent Days

“Christmas Time (also known as The Blodgett Family)” by Eastman Johnson (1864)

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Back in September, I wrote that ordinary days are a privilege and a gift.  We just had a week of uneventful, boring days and I was almost euphoric about it.

Some ordinary things from this week: Working together to complete a puzzle on the kitchen table.  Keeping a blazing fire in the fireplace.  Staying cozy indoors while it poured outside.  Washing piles upon piles of laundry.  Reading a silly read aloud to my littlest boys.  Making progress on my cross-stitch project.  Watching the kids strategize and cheer each other on as they played their joint Saint Nicholas gift.  (I found it secondhand for cheap – BIG hit!)  Driving around to see the neighbors’ lights and decorations.  Getting sick myself after caring for two kids with colds.  Reading and reading and reading.

Hoping to document the abundance around me all year long!

Around here, abundance looks like…

+ decorating our Christmas tree.  Just recently, I got a taste of the consumerism-pushing influencers on Youtube – new tree, new decorations, new new new.  (I’m sure it’s even worse on social media.)  Can I just be the voice of reason and say that not only is that financially unrealistic for most people, but it may also be removing important family memories in the process?  There is something special about the comfort of the same, the repetition of things that make us a family.  Our tree is a hodge-podge of glass ornaments and kids’ crafts and non-breakable bulbs and DIY creations made over the years.  I love to listen to the kids as they remember the when/where/hows of each piece.  Our tree isn’t internet-worthy, but it’s ours.  And isn’t that more important?

+ getting a much-needed surprise Chip Drop.  Our woodchip pile was pitifully small and I was starting to worry about how we would keep our permanent pig paddocks fresh through the winter.  God provides!

+ apparently getting all new floors!  The second opinion was sent to insurance and it looks like they’ve approved the replacement of not only the ruined half of the dining room, but the entire first floor.  We’ve been here, there and everywhere looking at samples and I’m pretty overwhelmed.  So many choices!  Hoping to settle on something classic that we’ll enjoy for years to come.  Thankfully, the work won’t begin until after Christmas so I have a bit of time to make a decision.

+ selling three unneeded items for the Car Loan Payoff Plan: a decorative Christmas garland, a book and a slip.  After shipping and fees, I made $10.01.  Not much, but every little bit helps.

Reading //

  • The Rules of Discernment: A Practical Guide – Rule 2 from Megan Hjelmstad at Spiritual Direction
  • Vapid Vibes: What does our culture want us to want? from Peco at Pilgrims in the Machine // “Sometimes, in life, affirmation is deserved. Some entitlements are legitimate. Encouragement is always good. But we have started to normalize narcissistic specialness. More than ever, we think we can function and succeed on ego fumes and the vapid vibes of hype and sentiment.”
  • Gratitude in Adversity, Lessons from St. Jeanne Jugan from Emily Malloy at Theology of Home // “Life presents countless challenges. It is the gratitude cultivated in the face of adversity that leads us up the mountain toward holiness; a gratitude that can only be formed in detachment from our own will as we conform ourselves to God’s.”  A beautiful saint!
  • Living Intentionally in a Tech-Driven World: My Journey to Balance from Miltiadis Raptis // “It’s important to recognize that technology itself isn’t inherently bad. It has brought us countless benefits, yet many people believe it’s to blame for the shallow relationships and procrastination that plague our society. The truth is, the fault lies within us. Just as sugar isn’t responsible for obesity—it’s our overconsumption of it—technology isn’t to blame for our lack of meaningful connections. It’s how we choose to use it.”

New Additions to The List // 

  • Paddling My Own Canoe: A Solo Adventure On the Coast of Molokai by Audrey Sutherland
  • Advent of the Heart: Seasonal Sermons and Prison Writings, 1941-1944 by Alfred Delp
  • Time of the Child by Niall Williams
  • Jeanne Jugan: Humble So As To Love More by Paul Milcent

Watching/Listening //

  • How To Be Extremely Frugal | Better Spending Habits In 2025 from 2 Sister Bees
  • 4 Tips to PREPARE for NO SPEND JANUARY 2025 from Kate Kaden // Making goals and getting inspired for the new year!
  • Creating a Beautiful Phenology Wheel: Nature’s Calendar from Marion’s World // This is incredible.
  • Why You Should Take Ownership Of Your Education – The Education Revolution! from Rob Pirie

Loving //

  • this “Rockefeller Center Joy” Christmas puzzle // We picked this up at a local toystore on Small Business Saturday.  So many cute details!
  • these battery-operated candles for the windows // Quite possibly my favorite Christmas decoration to put up each year.  So simple and beautiful.
  • this little poem:

December 9, 2024

No.876: Last Week at the Farmhouse // Deeds Are More Powerful Than Words

“A Winter’s Landscape” by Giuseppe De Nittis (1875)

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I’m reading an older book from 1976 called The Spiritual Writings of Saint John Bosco.  (I bought this at the used bookstore for $3 but look at what’s it’s going for on Amazon!!)  In one section, the author shared a quotation that John Bosco had written down on his Breviary bookmark.  The quote is from Saint Maximus of Turn: “Validiora sunt exempla quam verba, et plus est opere docere quam voce.”  Deeds are more powerful than words, and teaching is done better by example than speech.  I’ve been thinking a lot about that quote ever since.

Some of my favorite people are the ones who actually say very little.  They don’t lecture or bloviate, but live their lives simply and with purpose.  They donate their money, time and talents without telling…well, anyone.  They stay true to their convictions in a joyful manner.  I want to be more like that.

Hoping to document the abundance around me all year long!

Around here, abundance looks like…

+ days of headaches and fatigue.  I just finished this book and decided to implement some nutritional changes right away.  This was probably a bad idea, but I decided to reduce my coffee consumption and completely cut out sugar at the same time.  Oh man – the detox!  So rough.  Thankfully, by Friday, I was feeling much better and was headache-free.

+ returning to the Weather the Storm Challenge after a week off for Thanksgiving.   ‘Tis the season for spending money, but I’m trying to find the sales and deals to make it a little less terrible for our wallet.  This week, I:

  • avoided the grocery store, only purchasing milk, coffee and yogurt
  • used every last roll of wrapping paper for my family’s gifts (just bits and pieces of scraps left!)
  • listed a few items on Poshmark/ebay/Pango
  • reused an Amazon mailing envelope to mail a resale order
  • used a Cyber Monday deal for dog food
  • combined Kohl’s cash (that we earned buying a Christmas gift) with a sale to get a thermal base layer set for my daughter for $3!
  • made banana bread with overripe bananas

+ the charts I printed from Debt Free Charts to keep us motivated on our financial goals.  Most of them are free!  What a blessing.

+ focusing on reading the books I own.  Due to the impact of this book as well as other activities I want to pursue in 2025, I decided to pause my book purchasing and focus on the ones I already have.  I printed out the 100 Books chart from Debt Free Charts for extra motivation and hope to cut my physical TBR in half!  To make the process a bit more fun, I also made a numbered list of 100 books I own and will use a random number generator to pick my next read.  So far, so good!

+ selling two unneeded items for the Car Loan Payoff Plan: one children’s book and one felt Christmas garland.  After shipping and fees, I made $2.77.  I’m taking a bit of a reselling break for the rest of the year so these numbers will probably be pathetic, ha!

Reading //

  • The Rules of Discernment: A Practical Guide – Rule 1 from Megan Hjelmstad at Spiritual Direction // “This first rule zeros in on an important truth: we wouldn’t choose sin if it didn’t contain some apparent good or promise of fulfillment. We are not drawn to sin because it is damaging, but rather because it proposes some good that the enemy has accused God of withholding from us.”
  • It turns out technology isn’t the future. Fertility is. from Peco at Pilgrims in the Machine // “If youth means energy, in the sense of the vigor and dynamism of young people, it also means energy for the rest of us. When my own kids were young, they were like natural antidepressants. I might have had a difficult day at work, or a sleepless night, yet their presence was almost always uplifting. Most of my kids are now encroaching on adulthood, yet the energy is still there—if a bit more complicated. Their growth has also brought on an increasing sense of role-reversal: When children are small, we are their foundation. When we are old, they become ours.”
  • The Pleasures of Working Together from Tessa Carman at Hearth and Field // “At a certain age, grandchildren were paid for hourly labor. But I was raised with the conviction that doing noble work — such as feeding people — was worth doing, no matter what you were paid. Money wasn’t a measure of good work done. It was a means to an end, and certainly not the best reason to do a thing.”
  • Grapes, Grit, and Grandeur: My Year with John Steinbeck from Matthew Long at Inner Life

New Additions to The List // 

  • The Children of Men by P.D. James
  • Van Gogh Has a Broken Heart: What Art Teaches Us about the Wonder and Struggle of Being Alive by Russ Ramsey
  • The Infernal Machine: A True Story of Dynamite, Terror, and the Rise of the Modern Detective by Steven Johnson

Watching/Listening //

  • I Filmed Plants For 15 years | Time-lapse Compilation from Boxlapse // So cool.

Loving //

  • my well-worn and much-loved pair of flannel pajamas // This week was COLD.
  • this small business specializing in curated stocking stuffers // So fun.

December 2, 2024

No.873: Last Week at the Farmhouse // Nineteen

“Marriage” by Andrew Wyeth

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My husband and I celebrated our nineteenth wedding anniversary this week.  Nineteen!  Time flies when you’re having fun.  That’s not to say that our marriage hasn’t had its share of bumps in the road.  We almost quit at one point, but I’m so grateful that we ultimately drew back to each other and kept going.  It reminds me of a quote from G.K. Chesterton about being two stubborn pieces of iron:

Very few people ever state properly the strong argument in favour of marrying for love or against marrying for money. The argument is not that all lovers are heroes and heroines, nor is it that all dukes are profligates or all millionaires cads. The argument is this, that the differences between a man and a woman are at the best so obstinate and exasperating that they practically cannot be got over unless there is an atmosphere of exaggerated tenderness and mutual interest. To put the matter in one metaphor, the sexes are two stubborn pieces of iron; if they are to be welded together, it must be while they are red-hot. Every woman has to find out that her husband is a selfish beast, because every man is a selfish beast by the standard of a woman. But let her find out the beast while they are both still in the story of “Beauty and the Beast.” Every man has to find out that his wife is cross—that is to say, sensitive to the point of madness: for every woman is mad by the masculine standard. But let him find out that she is mad while her madness is more worth considering than anyone else’s sanity.

— G.K. Chesterton, The Common Man 

Nineteen years of living and creating and working together has welded us tightly together.  May we never take each other for granted and may we stubbornly cling to each other in all of life’s storms.  Marriage is a gift.

Hoping to document the abundance around me all year long!

Around here, abundance looks like…

+ positive updates for all of our in-process shenanigans.  My husband’s skin is healing slowly but nicely after his basal cell carcinoma surgery.  My son’s car was ultimately deemed salvageable and will hopefully be ready to be picked up next week.  As for the hardwood flooring, we hit a snag when our first contractor quoted us an astronomical amount for the repair, but a second opinion brought a much better price point.  Hoping to hear from our insurance and get a plan in place soon.

+ cleaning the house like a fool!  We took Wednesday off from school and I deemed it the perfect time to work on some much overdue chores.  I scrubbed the grout in my shower with this new-to-me tool, I shaved the couch of fuzz and dog hair with this much-used tool and I deep cleaned the kitchen to get ready for Thanksgiving cooking.  A very productive day!

+ rolling with the punches as we still don’t have a usable dining room.  We set up our Thanksgiving table in the living room and ate in front of the fireplace.  So ridiculous but one story we’ll be telling for years to come.

+ finishing up most of my Christmas wrapping!  My goal was to finish all of my shopping before December so actually getting them wrapped was just icing on the cake.  So excited to have a calm and relaxing Advent season.

+ selling three unneeded items for the Car Loan Payoff Plan: a book, a pair of pants and a pair of kids’ snowbibs.  After shipping and fees, I made $15.46.

Reading //

  • The Ignatian Rules of Discernment: A Practical Guide–Introduction from Megan Hjelmstad at Spiritual Direction // “The heart of Saint Ignatius’ Rules is this: in every moment, a great battle is being waged all around us, a battle between good and evil. The object? To win the most valuable territory in the universe—your soul.”
  • When It Feels Like the Plane Might Go Down from Shawn Smucker at The Courage to Live It // “What, then, will have been the point of hoarding anything? Of taking the safe route? Of doing anything other than those things that lift up others, create relationships and community, and leave the world a better place than we found it?”
  • Leninthink from Gary Saul Morson at The New Criterion // A long, but worthwhile read.
  • Friendship in Marriage: What Really Makes a Home from John Cuddeback at Life Craft // “Aristotle saw that true friendship is all about virtue: it is rooted in virtue; it grows through virtue; its goal is virtue. Spouses have the best natural opportunity to discover and enact this reality in a context perfect for friendship but also more than just friendship. Theirs is a relationship intrinsically oriented to generating and cultivating the life of others; and as a sacrament, their relationship takes on even deeper spiritual signification and implications.”

Watching/Listening //

  • 2025 Is Your No Buy Year! How I BOUGHT NOTHING For One Year from Taryn Maria
  • Allow The Book To Change You – Read To Discover Not Validate from Rob Pirie – The Cause

Loving //

  • this card game for aging Millennials // My husband and I bought this on a whim while we were out Christmas shopping.  We’re already considered “Geriatric Millennials” so definitely the target audience.  We laughed so hard.
  • this quote from Richard Winn Livingstone (I need to read his book, A Defense of Classical Education!):

A man who knows the origins of the world in which he lives, looks at it with more understanding, walks in it with securer and more certain steps; he is less intimidated by words, for he knows their history, less inclined to either excessive respect or contempt for existing institutions, for he sees how they came to be there.

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